So here we are May 28, 2014….One day before what should have been a very happy and fulfilled fourth wedding anniversary for me and my soon to be ex-wife. Well guess that didn’t turn out the way I thought.
Then again a lot of things in my life haven’t turned out the way I thought. But in the end I am a better person for it. Even, if I go off the deep end of the pool and land flat on my head at the bottom of the pool.
Yes I have used this forum to say what I feel/felt through this whole thing, and some of it was hateful and hurtful towards the soon to be ex. But at the time I wrote it, everything was what I felt. So I make no apologies to her or her little boy because I have done what I needed to do to keep my sanity in all of this. The only thing I am sorry about is that I was blind to some things and our marriage did not work out. But hey it was both of us in the end me for not seeing or understanding and her for running to the little boy she now lives with.
This whole blog has been very therapeutic for me which was its intent. I had originally wanted to continue to post up to and after our divorce, but now I feel no need to. There will be nothing special about it. She gets nothing I get nothing. We agree and the Judge signs then we are done.
I last talked to my wife on May 21, 2014. She called to see if I got the papers from her lawyer yet. When I told her I will send them out sometime in June as I had more important things to worry about she got a little upset, but hey why should it matter at this point, she has the perfect happy life she wanted so it will get done when it gets done. I still find it hilarious that when we last spoke on April 17, 2014 she asked me what my rush was to get it done when I told her just get the papers to me.
Since I did receive a separation agreement, I find it kind of funny since in the State of New Jersey there is no legally recognized separation needed. Also kind of strange since we have already divided up our assets and we have no jointly held property. Makes me wonder how much this lawyer of hers is fleecing her for.
Personally if I wanted a divorce that badly where I jumped in bed with another woman prior to leaving my spouse and had the other woman move in less than a week after she moved out I would have had divorce paperwork ready to be signed. But whatever, I’m not paying for it.
So I hope my soon to be ex-wife enjoys “our” wedding anniversary and I hope she also enjoys her trip to Virginia Beach with her boy-toy….since we were supposed to go to A NASCAR Race and Rehoboth Beach in Delaware
Well with that my little rant is done, and it will be very interesting to see where the next chapter of my life brings me…….because it’s been a very strange, fun in some aspects (not many but some) heartbreaking, screwball journey so far….but hey it’s all fun and games in the end.
I can only wish my soon to be ex-wife the happiness that she seeks, since I clearly couldn’t give it to her. So in closing I haven’t given up on love or the idea of marriage….and no I haven’t redefined my idea of true love………..so I will leave all of my faithful readers the meaning of true love as I see it.
Take care and God Bless!!!
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient, love is kind, it isn’t jealous, it doesn’t brag, it isn’t arrogant, 5 it isn’t rude, it doesn’t seek its own advantage, it isn’t irritable, it doesn’t keep a record of complaints, 6 it isn’t happy with injustice, but it is happy with the truth. 7 Love puts up with all things, trusts in all things, hopes for all things, endures all things.